Fifty Shades Of Grey or how to spice your boring love life....

And here we are again, about to watch another worldwide book phenomenon turned into a major motion picture. So what's all about it? Well to be fair with all it's fans and followers we have to start with the origin of the success of the book. A novel that became a worldwide success not for its story or for the well written prose, but for introducing a new topic to the suburban life. Bondage. Well known for those addicted to porn or kinky stuff but more a prohibited and a myth for those well educated and religious or just not familiar with the topic.

So the story creates a romance, very fairy tale based, where a virgin girl, that only acts like an innocent girl when gets convenient for her but as a strong independent women when also works better for her, and so gets involved with a twisted man, that only acts like a alpha male, not like a human being, only to get involved in the same game that is been played since ancient times. The hunting game. We feel attracted to what we can't get and its different but at the same time we want what everybody roots for, romance and cliches, so we move back and forth between those.

But thats an old story, we've seen that hundreds of times, so a change is needed, what do girls and guys like these days, when romance is over rated and relationships as are independent as twin beds? Sex. But also we've seen lot of sex. Lots of stories involving erotic tales and sexual encounters and affairs and these days with online sites and apps that make that easier, wouldn't be such a surprise. So what is there that we haven't explore there but its as appealing to our nature and our common life that need to be explore. S&M.

The same game of being chased and chasing evolves to the private room where turns into a role play, someone will act as a dominant and other as a submissive in order to give and receive pleasure, involving toys and a whole set that includes being tied up and blind folded. But this is not necessarily for everybody but the idea is. Not everyone will enjoy the pleasure of feeling dominated or owned by someone, willing to please him/her and sometimes being humiliated as part of the game. But in paper sounds more exciting. The feeling of finding someone, that of course will have money, lots of money, so will look like being saved for our ordinary life and the excitement of feeling powerful and into something different but always wanted and just lose control.

There's where "Fifty shades of Grey" (2015) fits. And even its success among readers, critics didn't rave for it, nether as a novel or now as a movie. Differences are minimal between the two of them, but what does the movie enlightens is about their characters, where in the book are as dimensional as any Disney fairy tale from the 50's (the number its not the only reference), in the movie they still feel as flat as a new Samsung screen but at least we have motives and some perspectives that make us feel related to them not when it comes to the scripts, which includes all cliches in a rom-com, and lines as boring and fake as a wedding arrangement.

What the movie lacks is what made the book a hit. All this fantasies and kinky lines about fetiches, role play, sex toys, a girl playing submissive for a guy that wants to own her sexually as a way to get pleasure and the way they explore sexuality in other ways than a missionary position or doggy style that any marriage get caught after years together or when kids are around the house. So what we get instead its the intention of reveal of that through images of a play room filled with all sorts of toys and sets to create a perfect bondage session. But here are no words that will help to describe what all they are or what are our two characters getting into.

Anastasia is the virgin. A girl about to graduate in college. That makes everything possible to look like an ordinary girl, an underdog that walks by school with perfect manners, charisma, values, and knowledge defending her ideals as a strong woman willing to be transformed and challenged in a very passive aggressive game. The most ridicule of circumstances made her go to an interview to one of the most eligible bachelors in the country, a very handsome man, multi billionaire, owner of a business empire as lots of cars and properties. How could he not be someone intimidating with such curriculum. Well even he has the most attractive women working as assistants to him, he gets caught by the innocence and naiveness of Ana, who cares less about this man out of her ligue so just lets her make fun of herself asking stupid questions and judging him where others wouldn't. Bingo! let the game begins.

So as any girl, she will play victim and let the guy chase girl with the idea in her mind that he is not that into her till she realices the obvios just to be caught in his arms and the knowledge that he is not into what she is looking for but will agree to introduce her into his own play, as a control freak, we desires her as her submissive companion. But as a good girl she is, she's willing to please him giving it a chance just to realize, as always, she needs more than he, since the beginning and with full honesty, told her its not on the table. But she wants him now, so in her mind she has the idea that she can make him change his mind if she pleases him. So the game falls in to this cycle of dysfunctional relationship where i want you while i can't have you till i get it and then don't want it anymore but can't leave you, and so it goes till we realize we have more in common with this than with the kinky side of it.

So the movie works as any rom-com full of cliches and fantasies about love and romance even if a twisted "kinky" one, but for how long we need to keep seeing these stories that sell other than real relationships and more of fantasies creating patterns that aloud people to behave like that in their houses, offices and out there, instead of help them showing the way real love works out and how relationships work as a hard work in progress and two sided commitment. And also misses the great opportunity of explore more about human sexuality, which is now open to new games that instead of contribute to twist romance could help to create a healthy relationship where the two of them can satisfy each other, explore their bodies, get excited by the other not for what they could be but for what they are, and spice things in bed to avoid routine instead of having to go out and find that with others. Or is that our idea or concept of love, sex and romance?

We are complicated as human beings and we need to see that in the screen, so instead of losing 90 minutes with unreal situations, where helicopters, nice cars, fancy dinners and airplanes get involved we should have known why Christian Grey need this feeling of control after a rough start in life creating on him a behavior incapable to connect other ways with women and people. And why Anastasia has been like this till now, What are her motivations and goals. Why she hasn't any relationship in the past? Is she as damage as he is or even more as she has no excuse to act like that while he has just a different taste and open sexuality but been honest about her? And also we could get more of those 20 mins full of supposedly sex, with real images of erotica, where things could be described about the S&M topic and how it works instead of losing t with images of a contract with names of sex toys and roles and more skin from actor just willing to play a censured role. Sounds like as any fairy tale, we've been cheated for the 50th time.