Sleeping With Other People....afraid of commitment?

As we as society evolved relationship wise, we opened our minds to take traditions to new levels, where either men and women can be able to grow, enjoy, and be part equally of that relationship that will bring love and create a deer connection trying to satisfied all demands from both sides. Now seem far away those days where women were supposed to surmise for their husband, waiting to explore sexuality till get married and just able to try as far as her husband let her go, sometimes not further than just missionary position. Same way, when men kept his adventures under the table and was pushed to jump to marriage and start it's own family.

Relationships between men and women were merely towards a relationship or sexually charged, or maybe business wise, but not anymore. Can opposite sex can be friends? or even best friends? In theory that's the base of any relationship. Seeking a partner that can complement us in ways that make us better, that challenge us the takes us to a safe place. But the general rule between friends and lovers is that attraction that brings feelings and excitement. So can we be mature enough to control all of those in order to keep things in the friendship zone, blocking any other kind of feelings and enjoying the benefits and less complications of a pure and honest friendship ?

That's the base of this month rom com "Sleeping with other people" (2015), that focus on the relationship of a guy and a girl that met at college under weird circumstances just to share the night and ended hooking up, losing both their virginity. That moment would define these two people. He will become a sex addict, afraid of commitment, enjoying the benefits of casual sex as part of a successful life where his own business has turned into a profitable one and his now experienced charm makes him popular among single women, advantage that he is willing to enjoy as an excuse to avoid facing those feelings and drama. Same way, she has become an addict to love, pursuing the idea of a happy ending ends cheating her long term boyfriend with the guy that stood her up back in college to become her mistress and can't face the idea of being with other man while he is still in the picture but at the same time knowing that has no future with him, just chasing the idea of love in a very dysfunctional relationship that works as a perfect cover of her feelings to avoid being hurt while she keeps hurting herself acting as a strong woman just to prove she's actually the opposite.

In this moment their worlds collide for a second time just to realize that the chemistry they had that random night is still there over the years, but this new timing won't work for them both so better keep it on the friend zone to avoid complications, agreeing to create a code to break the sexual tension when it will surface. Under this new statement, that start sharing time together and bonding, being there for each other when their new addictions bring complications and bad feelings, so they become life coach of the other just to realize that feelings are growing and sexual tension is harder to control and becomes more present when those feelings start to rise, forcing them to face reality.

On the other side becomes more interesting the fact of this reflection of how new relationships work, as gets more common to find these situations when two people face the fact to develop feelings for each other just to deal with this new fear for commitment that has raised as a consequence of a new seek of independence and achieve goals individually instead of as a team. Modern society is moving towards waters that embrace and satisfy the fact that being alone can also bring you happiness and no one need anyone on their side to be happy and be successful, but forgetting that we are a social species that needs to be part of a community and a family as primal instinct  and might no be needed to achieve whatever we want but incapable of bringing satisfaction and love that being in love and part of a relationship can bring.

How far can we get as a couple or as individuals by ourself? is it true that we don't need someone at our side to be happy, just full filling or sexual needs with casual encounters that also bring the opportunity to explore and openness to try new things that we might be ashamed to share with our partner, but then wasn't the fact of being with someone the idea of being capable of share everything and create a connection that challenge us and give us confidence to try new things and discover more? Is it really friendship the base of true love and what creates a connection between two strangers or it actually can work as a pure, honest chemistry for opposite sex as a complement for each other? Can true love, with its strong attraction and chemistry make us face our fears and embrace those feelings or will just fade them away as a momentarily cover up as the sexual connection happens and then as it will evolve will they surface again?