Men, Women & Children ... a generation's sexual revolution

Ok. We know that we all are different according our age or our gender, but how's possible that in this modern days, a gap between two generation can be so huge that seems like a clash of two different centuries. How different were the times when parents grew up and face the world while trying to figure it out while now their children are setting a new era of communication that in some ways look more advance comparing with the old fashion technology but in terms of contents and meaning feel so distant and impersonal that is getting us back to the stone age as human beings.

Yes. this is the movie "Men, Women & Children" (2014), a title that doesn't bring any excitement or add anything to the value of its entitlement but only makes us wonder what new could bring from it. In fact, we are about to experience an essay that feels late, when we already know what we are facing and feels more like a warning or preaching than a social critic about the new era in communication.

No. the movie neither is a comedy, neither  drama but a mix of everything. With a cast that mix stars like Adam Sandler trying to play serious and talking about sex without being funny, or Jennifer Garner in her new career phase playing moms in & out screen, and some familiar faces from tv shows and new raising stars, like the young actor Ansel Elgort in his third role this year, under the vision of the once fresh and authentic director Jason Reitman, we are about to get involve in the life of a group of people, that look familiar to us, sharing common places and situations in a small town in Texas, where as all small towns, life goes around the same things and the same people, but what do we really know about these people that we assume are known for us?

What? We see them everyday at school, some of them live close by, we always say hello to them at the supermarket or coffee shop, or even they are friends with whom we spend nights and days, experiences and feeling but how are we communicating? What's going on if actually we just talk by texting and walk watching our phones without noticing who's next or behind us?

Wrong. We are not. There is no communication these days where cellphone is ruling our lives. Smartphones are our priority. Be online is the only way we know of distraction and a need to share with other all about our life. Children have created a new language based in emoticons to try to express their feelings or thoughts. They are capable of share the most intimate things about themselves or their family online to a bunch of strangers that never will get to meet opening a door to their privacy that co exist with reality and virtuality.

True. Parents are ok with it. Feeling like if not are getting old, they are trying to pick up what is left for them but is too easy to raise a child when pretending to be their friend and be a parent is more about a role model and lead them through what is right or wrong that give them tools to go out and discover the world by the hands of others.

Of Course. There is no one to blame as adults, are dealing with their own problems. Feeling old and trapped in a routine of a relationship or bored with their lives as theres a point when you realize that life didn't go the way you expected but never is too late unless you feel to tired to try. how can you raise a kid or relate with others if you can enjoy yourself? Online is the new answer. You bored? they will find you a new online game, or an online date, or online social network to make friends or followers for your hobbies or insecurities.

Why? if you try to shut down all this, won't be the answer cause going against the flow is not the answer and can push away the people you love. But also how can we connect if nobody is perfect and at the same time trap in the same trance of miscommunication. The more we try, deeper will find us in this game where we expect easy and fast results as turning the phone on and click and app.

Sex. Is all about sex. Men always think about it. Women denied it but also need it. Men need the power of feeling pleasure. Women need the feeling of being desired. We need to like someone that is attractive under our own standards and also we like to be liked. Children have hormones. They can only think about sex. Porn. Casual encounters. Masturbation. Excitement. Attraction. Desire. Both Children and parents seem to like the same things just playing under different rules. If you are married you can't play with other than your spouse and if not, you can't act like a teenager following horniness cause you suppose to be mature but if you are a teenager you have to behave like an adult cause you have to hide your horniness. We act and communicate in order to connect. We connect in order of following our thoughts and feelings. Our feeling are ruled by love and joy. Love and Joy bring excitement. Excitement leads to our hormones that turn our sexual desire. Men. Women. Is all about sex.

How? Being unique while everyone is focused on what everybody does and others life, just to be able to set their own goals and success, is a handwork that only gets to the point where we feel lonely but is supposed to be ok, cause thats what everybody is doing. how can we be spending a whole afternoon with our friends or kids just watching tv or texting by phone with others instead of communicate and enjoy them. Our respect and life holds on the others and the outside world. Not ours. The one that we cr
eate. How can we let to the kids to talk to us without respect the their older. How can we not talk to them about whats happening in life, explaining and getting involve. Like we care. Cause they care to us. But if we don't care for ourselves how can we for them? How can we enjoy sex by watching porn better than the real one on one cause everybody is creating their own fetiches based on what are we watching?

As the movie starts and ends with the comparison of how small planet earth is in the universe that we are making a big deal of our lives when things can be as simple as that comparison. Men, women or children. We are all humans coexisting in the same world. A real one, no room for virtuality. But maybe we are already caught by it and its too late to take a step back or maybe is still time to make a difference and take a new path. As much as real this experience will feel, the lack of intimacy in a search of human connections might play against it, even thats the purpose of it.